Ask TaxMama Issue 458 - Happy Memorial Day Weekend

2008-05-23 by

Happy Memorial Day Weekend

Dear Family,

I’m grouchy this morning. Do you ever have those days when things just annoy you? Well, this is leftover from yesterday. A client who urgently needs my help to meet an IRS collection deadline promised to call yesterday afternoon. So instead of running out to take care of important tasks, I waited all day – and he didn’t bother to call. Of course, this is after he hasn’t returned 2 or 3 calls this week.

Naturally, this is HIS emergency. It’s HIS assets that will be levied if we do nothing. Why should I care, if he’s so irresponsible? Heck, let it happen. Clearly, he deserves whatever they do to him, doesn’t he?

I keep telling him I won’t work with him anymore. But he sweet-talks me into helping, yet again.

Does this sound familiar to you? A friend of mine once described the way her daughter’s boyfriend was abusing her (emotionally). And I say there and nodded, yes, yes, that’s awful. How dare he treat her that way!

Then I look at some of these people who are always getting into tax trouble, time and time again. And I see the same pattern of abusive behavior towards those who are there to help them.

The broken promises to provide information.
The apologies when the system catches them and they desperately need help to get liens or levies removed from homes or paychecks.
The intensely sincere promises that they will behave and cooperate.
And then, of course, after always needing you to drop what you’re doing to bail them out, yet again – they don’t bother to pay until you are pushed to anger.

How does that translate to some of the frustrating relations you have with your clients, ‘friends’, or family members? Do you recognize this personality?

Do you find yourself getting sucked in to help someone you’d rather avoid? Have you looked at the relationship and recognized that this a powerful form of abuse?
What are you going to do about your relationship?

Me, I think mine is just about to end!

And speaking of annoying, someone else recently told me that she couldn’t pay my bill (outstanding for nearly a year) because her husband has been out of work for months.

a) When you’re in that situation, why don’t you let your creditors know. Perhaps they can set aside your invoice until you get back on your feet. Yes, some will. In fact, they might even help you find work.

b) When you owe debts to a variety of businesses, pay PEOPLE first. The small businessowner has to live on those accounts receivable. It’s a huge hardship to that person when they don’t get paid. I can’t imagine not payng a PERSON who’s done work for me – even if I have to borrow the money. People come first to me. Your credit cards, on the other hand, will accept minimum payments.

c) Cut back on your expenses when you’re out of work. Why are you still spending extravagantly? And if you or your spouse are out of work and at home – replace the gardener, pool guy and other services – and do the work yourself until you get on your feet.

d) Look for a job. We’ve talked about how to do that before.
Use this week’s Job Advice. It’s all about who you know.
http://www.taxquips.com/index.php?cat=JobAdviceoftheWeek

These days, you’re getting messages all the time from people inviting you to join their social or business networks, like
Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. Why aren’t you scouring YOUR contacts’ connections for people you’d like to work for? Your friends and contacts probably know someone; and can make an introduction.

Frankly, I know it’s tough when you’re out of work. And after a while, desperation seeps into your soul. Succumb to that depression – and it’s all over. Start using the smarts that made you successful in your earlier positions – and treat your own job search as if it were a project for your employer, or a client, and suddenly, the whole search becomes a lot more
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TaxQuips this week provides help for a mom who wants her past-due child support collected; information on how to find out about your IRS balance due; how to find out the withholding on an old paycheck; and how to make the American Dream come true and get down payment assistance (read more in MarketWatch this week)
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As always, we love your feedback, opinions and ideas.
You are what makes all this fun – and interesting!

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Hugs from your favorite TaxNerd,

Eva Rosenberg, EA

Your TaxMama is watching…out for you.

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  1. Ronnie Beaman Says:

    I wanted to thank you for the email about customers who abuse you. I have a few of those. They don't have time to give you what you need, but suddenly they have an emergency and you are supposed to drop everything for them, and then they don't want to pay your bill.
    They also don't seem to have any trouble spending money on things they want at the same time.
    Sorry, but you really hit a nerve with me because of a couple of these people I have been dealing with for the last few weeks. One owes me over $1000. I should have stopped the work before it got that high. However I also came to the conclusion earlier this week that I am not working for these types of customers any more.
    I don't like feeling angry all the time because of the way they treat me. I got into accounting because I love it and can help people. But that shouldn't mean I have to put up with these situations and then have to worry about my own bills because I don't get paid.
    Thanks for letting me vent.


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